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The Metaphor Continues: Abuser Gets Full Custody
Sigh. I've had to do a lot of coaching myself in the last 48 hours--radical acceptance, circle of control, breathe in...healing means...
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spiritsonghcdc
Oct 103 min read
The "Dominant" Parent Trap
Dominance. That's their agenda. A quick Google for synonyms for the word dominant brings up ruling, governing, controlling, commanding, supr
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spiritsonghcdc
Oct 24 min read
Pregnancy: Igniting the Narcissist
Hindsight can be a real bitch. Looking back you can see so clearly how things played out. You can see the moments where you said "This...
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spiritsonghcdc
Sep 234 min read
Is Coercive Control Lurking in Your Life?
Or is it sitting there in the recliner in the middle of the living room, barking orders at the kids, insulting you, and not participating...
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spiritsonghcdc
Aug 205 min read
Helplessness to Hopefulness: Connection and Emotional Support
2016 Almost broke me. It triggered wounds I thought I’d healed and moved on from and presented bountiful opportunities for those that...
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spiritsonghcdc
Jul 14 min read
The Debate and Family Court: Abuse on Stage
I wasn't home when the debate started last Thursday, which was fine because I didn't want to watch it anyway. I knew what would happen. I...
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spiritsonghcdc
Jun 263 min read
Skull Crusher: That Sounds Fun!
If you knew that a particular rock formation along the river was called "Skull Crusher", would you willingly go over the falls without a...
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spiritsonghcdc
May 284 min read
5 Tips for Communicating With Your Abuser After Separation
These early days after you've filed are pivotal in setting the tone for how you will be perceived by the court...
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spiritsonghcdc
May 94 min read
An Open Letter to the Mom I Used to Be
I see you mama, sitting on those steps while your kids obliviously hang on the rails or sit there not even caring at all that they're...
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spiritsonghcdc
May 23 min read
Father or Bear?
If you're on TikTok, you've likely seen videos about the "man vs. bear" question. I'm not 100% on the origin, but the first video I saw...
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spiritsonghcdc
Apr 223 min read
Coercive Control 101
I've been divorced from an abusive partner for sixteen years now and have been doing some serious unpacking of all that baggage for the...
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spiritsonghcdc
Mar 253 min read
Shitty Kitty: Boundary Queen
We joke in our home that Shitty Kitty rules the roost--she's a little maybe 8- pound black cat with half a tail and a saucy attitude. She...
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spiritsonghcdc
Feb 135 min read
Reckless Parenting: Hallmark of a Narcissist
I was talking with a friend the other day who is the survivor of a trailer fire. I didn't know the details around it and asked him if he...
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spiritsonghcdc
Feb 83 min read
On Tracy Chapman, Luke Combs, and Fast Cars
As a teenager in the 80's, I already had a pretty wide range of musical interests that included musicians and bands like Depeche Mode,...
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spiritsonghcdc
Jan 303 min read
"He's Nothing."
If you haven't been keeping up with the news, E. Jean Carroll is a name you should know. She accused and successfully proved in a civil...
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spiritsonghcdc
Jan 93 min read
The Labyrinth of Healing
Until just the other day, I thought of the healing journey as something linear. It may be 3 steps forward, 12 steps back, a leap and jog,...
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spiritsonghcdc
Oct 9, 20235 min read
Doing Our Best: Lessons From Buster the Wonderpup
I've been pretty quiet in the blogspace lately. Life has been harder than usual lately. I saw a puppy running down the side of the...
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spiritsonghcdc
Sep 19, 20234 min read
The Healing Journey: Step 2
With a fancy title like that, I bet you think I've got it all figured out and am about to enlighten you with some knowledge that will...
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spiritsonghcdc
Sep 1, 20234 min read
Measuring Healing: Big Progress in Micro Moments
I've said before that healing isn't really a destination. You don't end up landing with both feet in the middle of a big circle with an X...
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spiritsonghcdc
Aug 16, 20233 min read
What Is Self-Care? (I'm so glad you asked!)
Self-care seems to be having its day in the sun. Seems you can't open the interwebs without seeing articles, ads, or posts about...
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