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spiritsonghcdc
Dec 29, 20246 min read
Countering CAMS (Child And Mother Sabotage) 101
You feel like you're losing your kids to your abuser and you don't understand why they are behaving and responding to you in ways that...
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thebelvinaproject
Dec 28, 20244 min read
CAMS: Child And Mother Sabotage
I sat down to work on some TikTok content the other day and had one of those life affirming moments of clarity. In the midst of...
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spiritsonghcdc
Dec 6, 20243 min read
The Flying Monkey Effect: They're All Around Us
If you've been in the narcissistic abuse world long enough, you know what a flying monkey is. It's the narcissist's circle of loyalists...
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spiritsonghcdc
Nov 22, 20243 min read
My Biggest Mistake: What-Not-to-Do When Co-Parenting With a Narcissist
This is a tough one for me. I have spent the better part of the last eight years doing the heavy lifting of healing from cptsd and...
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spiritsonghcdc
Nov 7, 20244 min read
The Metaphor Continues: Abuser Gets Full Custody
Sigh. I've had to do a lot of coaching myself in the last 48 hours--radical acceptance, circle of control, breathe in...healing means...
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spiritsonghcdc
Oct 10, 20243 min read
The "Dominant" Parent Trap
Dominance. That's their agenda. A quick Google for synonyms for the word dominant brings up ruling, governing, controlling, commanding, supr
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spiritsonghcdc
Oct 2, 20244 min read
Pregnancy: Igniting the Narcissist
Hindsight can be a real bitch. Looking back you can see so clearly how things played out. You can see the moments where you said "This...
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spiritsonghcdc
Sep 23, 20244 min read
Is Coercive Control Lurking in Your Life?
Or is it sitting there in the recliner in the middle of the living room, barking orders at the kids, insulting you, and not participating...
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spiritsonghcdc
Jul 1, 20244 min read
The Debate and Family Court: Abuse on Stage
I wasn't home when the debate started last Thursday, which was fine because I didn't want to watch it anyway. I knew what would happen. I...
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spiritsonghcdc
May 28, 20244 min read
5 Tips for Communicating With Your Abuser After Separation
These early days after you've filed are pivotal in setting the tone for how you will be perceived by the court...
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spiritsonghcdc
Apr 22, 20243 min read
Coercive Control 101
I've been divorced from an abusive partner for sixteen years now and have been doing some serious unpacking of all that baggage for the...
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spiritsonghcdc
Feb 13, 20245 min read
Reckless Parenting: Hallmark of a Narcissist
I was talking with a friend the other day who is the survivor of a trailer fire. I didn't know the details around it and asked him if he...
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spiritsonghcdc
Aug 11, 20233 min read
How Do I Find the Right Divorce Coach?
I feel like every time I open any of my social media feeds lately, I'm seeing more and more ads for seemingly higher profile...
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spiritsonghcdc
Jun 21, 20235 min read
Let's Talk About Financial Abuse
Most conversations about domestic violence include the physical and emotional components, as they are the most observable and...
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spiritsonghcdc
May 2, 20234 min read
But He Never Hit Me: The Emotional Side of Abuse
I can see the tides beginning to shift as topics like coercive control and emotional abuse gain traction in the national discourse. It's...
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spiritsonghcdc
Apr 24, 20235 min read
Forget the Mama Bear Analogy...Mama Elephant is Where It's At
Have you ever felt an analogy? My journey has had me looking reflectively at the past lately, especially relating to my children and the...
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spiritsonghcdc
Apr 6, 20236 min read
Post Separation Abuse: Counter Parenting
This is another one of those areas that seems fairly self-explanatory. From the One Mom's Battle infographic, counter parenting is "When...
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spiritsonghcdc
Mar 29, 20234 min read
Post Separation Abuse: Harassment and Stalking
As promised, we're going to take a closer look at some of the components of Post Separation Abuse, starting with one of the most...
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spiritsonghcdc
Mar 22, 20234 min read
What is Post Separation Abuse?
"Post-separation abuse is abuse that continues or escalates after the relationship has ended. It can include intimidation, harassment,...
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