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spiritsonghcdc
Dec 29, 20246 min read
Countering CAMS (Child And Mother Sabotage) 101
You feel like you're losing your kids to your abuser and you don't understand why they are behaving and responding to you in ways that...
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spiritsonghcdc
Dec 6, 20243 min read
The Flying Monkey Effect: They're All Around Us
If you've been in the narcissistic abuse world long enough, you know what a flying monkey is. It's the narcissist's circle of loyalists...
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spiritsonghcdc
Nov 22, 20243 min read
My Biggest Mistake: What-Not-to-Do When Co-Parenting With a Narcissist
This is a tough one for me. I have spent the better part of the last eight years doing the heavy lifting of healing from cptsd and...
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spiritsonghcdc
Nov 7, 20244 min read
The Metaphor Continues: Abuser Gets Full Custody
Sigh. I've had to do a lot of coaching myself in the last 48 hours--radical acceptance, circle of control, breathe in...healing means...
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spiritsonghcdc
Oct 2, 20244 min read
Pregnancy: Igniting the Narcissist
Hindsight can be a real bitch. Looking back you can see so clearly how things played out. You can see the moments where you said "This...
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spiritsonghcdc
Sep 23, 20244 min read
Is Coercive Control Lurking in Your Life?
Or is it sitting there in the recliner in the middle of the living room, barking orders at the kids, insulting you, and not participating...
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spiritsonghcdc
Aug 20, 20245 min read
Helplessness to Hopefulness: Connection and Emotional Support
2016 Almost broke me. It triggered wounds I thought I’d healed and moved on from and presented bountiful opportunities for those that...
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spiritsonghcdc
Jun 26, 20243 min read
Skull Crusher: That Sounds Fun!
If you knew that a particular rock formation along the river was called "Skull Crusher", would you willingly go over the falls without a...
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spiritsonghcdc
May 28, 20244 min read
5 Tips for Communicating With Your Abuser After Separation
These early days after you've filed are pivotal in setting the tone for how you will be perceived by the court...
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spiritsonghcdc
May 9, 20244 min read
An Open Letter to the Mom I Used to Be
I see you mama, sitting on those steps while your kids obliviously hang on the rails or sit there not even caring at all that they're...
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spiritsonghcdc
Mar 25, 20243 min read
Shitty Kitty: Boundary Queen
We joke in our home that Shitty Kitty rules the roost--she's a little maybe 8- pound black cat with half a tail and a saucy attitude. She...
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spiritsonghcdc
Jan 30, 20243 min read
"He's Nothing."
If you haven't been keeping up with the news, E. Jean Carroll is a name you should know. She accused and successfully proved in a civil...
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spiritsonghcdc
Jan 9, 20243 min read
The Labyrinth of Healing
Until just the other day, I thought of the healing journey as something linear. It may be 3 steps forward, 12 steps back, a leap and jog,...
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spiritsonghcdc
Oct 9, 20235 min read
Doing Our Best: Lessons From Buster the Wonderpup
I've been pretty quiet in the blogspace lately. Life has been harder than usual lately. I saw a puppy running down the side of the...
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spiritsonghcdc
Sep 19, 20234 min read
The Healing Journey: Step 2
With a fancy title like that, I bet you think I've got it all figured out and am about to enlighten you with some knowledge that will...
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spiritsonghcdc
Sep 1, 20234 min read
Measuring Healing: Big Progress in Micro Moments
I've said before that healing isn't really a destination. You don't end up landing with both feet in the middle of a big circle with an X...
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spiritsonghcdc
Aug 16, 20233 min read
What Is Self-Care? (I'm so glad you asked!)
Self-care seems to be having its day in the sun. Seems you can't open the interwebs without seeing articles, ads, or posts about...
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spiritsonghcdc
Jul 19, 20234 min read
Testifying When Your Terrified
I have yet to work with a client that is excited about the opportunity to testify in court--or to be cross examined by opposing counsel....
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spiritsonghcdc
Jun 5, 20234 min read
In the News (Again): When It Gets Overwhelming
When I was first creating this blog space, I was thinking about the categories that I'd likely need to include. What would I be writing...
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spiritsonghcdc
May 16, 20234 min read
The Mother's Day Report: (I Didn't Cry!)
Maybe that should be it. I didn't cry. The End. If you're paying attention at all to social media, you know that Mother's Day isn't such...
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